For a couple or family, who live in America, social interaction is quite occasional. Husbands mostly go to work. Therefore, they do not get as bored as women at home do. Non-working women or full-time moms get really lonely after a while. Trust me, life in America is not at all similar to back at home. In such times, husband and wife become sole entertainers for each other, while 'sharing life and crossing the hurdles of life.
Women are smart and sensitive. It is not hard for a husband to understand his wife, who puts an effort into the relationship. Being a woman I can understand a wife’s perspective better so I collected some tips to help my family, friends, and readers. I guess some of these can be used for husbands as well. Take some of your precious time out for her and use these easy tips if you want to genuinely impress her:
1. People are attracted to confidence/success/positivity: Market yourself, if not your life partner who else would you impress, right? So, don’t be shy…..to boast about your skills and achievements either from childhood or your work. Remember, everybody likes to hear a story. Talk about great (Ex: math) skills you have and how you won people’s praise by ‘XYZ act’.
2. Teach her a skill she is longing to learn: Some women like to learn driving or things that their husband has expertise in. In America, driving a car is a billion-dollar skill for a full-time mom. Unless she knows driving, she feels disabled and depressed because she is dependent on every little thing from her husband. Teaching her to drive a car is definitely a 100% heart-winning gift that a husband can give to a wife.
3. Share stories that add to her knowledge: Women like to hear something new; things that they do not indulge in naturally. Tell her interesting stories about politics, sports, your work, etc. Absolutely avoid house politics or sensitive issues.
4. Cook FOR her: Women are vexed by cooking every day. It became such a ‘mandatory monotonous chore that it makes them feel as if they are in an inescapable trap’. Cook something that they might like from your kitchen. This shows that you truly understand that they need a break from their daily routine. Cook something that you can make easily without stressing out yourself, after all, you too are looking forward to spending a good time with her, and you do not want to dose off when its time ;)
5. Cook WITH her: This is a nice time to strengthen or revitalize the bond. Women always appreciate a helping hand.
6. Praise: Not their dress or looks, it is an old way to impress. Praise about the unique qualities they recently developed or how they still look so young. If your wife is a full-time mom then she needs more praise, in fact, excessive praise.
7. Ask her opinion about the issue you are facing at this point in time in life, ex: the generation gap, how to stop aging, articles you read this morning on how to grow muscles, etc.
This shows that you care for her perspective. People are different from each other because they have a different sets of knowledgeable points. Life is wonderful because of these differences; otherwise, it would have been boring. So, enjoy the differences you both have and learn and grow from each other. Husbands do not realize that their wife is the best counselor ever. They have the exact suggestion that you have been looking everywhere but forgot that it is right here.
8. Discover her interests: Remember, women have some interesting topics on which they have intense knowledge, and when someone initiates a conversation on that topic they jump up and participate with all enthusiasm. Use these hints to initiate a good conversation next time.
9.Make her laugh: For this ‘sense of humor is required. A secret tip for developing a sense of humor is- ‘always joke about yourself or inanimate objects only, never joke about the other person.’
These are some titbits from my treasure. Hope you enjoyed it.